Riverside Area Rape Crisis Center

Date Rape

What is Date Rape?

Date Rape means having a date force you to have intercourse or perform other sexual acts. Any kind of forced sexual contact is a violation of your rights.

REMEMBER: You have the right to choose when and with whom you want to be sexual.

Know Your Date

Set boundaries. Know what your limits are when dating. Know that any type of force is wrong.

Respect boundaries that are set by others; don’t view them as a change or as rejection.

Communicate clearly. Talk about your expectations of a relationship or if there is going to be a relationship at all.

Meet in public places. Group-date with friends until you know the person well.

Notice how your date acts with other people and treats you.

Avoid situations that involve alcohol because alcohol makes it more likely that you or your date will lose control.

Trust your feelings. If you feel uncomfortable or threatened, get to a safe place away from the person or situation.

Warning Signs

Intrusion: Often the offender begins by somehow violating his victim’s space.

Other types of intrusions can be unwanted touches, a certain kind of look, or conversations about things you don’t want to talk about because they’re so personal.

Usually intrusions are not very threatening, but make you feel uncomfortable.

Desensitization: You become less sensitive to the intrusions. You drop your guard. You start to think, “That’s just the way he is,” or, “He doesn’t mean anything by it.”

Isolation: The offender tries to get you alone. You can’t avoid being alone with everyone, but to avoid being isolated with people who make you uncomfortable is a good prevention technique.

BE AWARE OF WHO YOU ARE WITH

WHERE YOU ARE GOING

WHAT YOU DRINK AND WHAT DRUGS YOU TAKE

NEVER LEAVE A DRINK UNATTENDED OR ACCEPT A DRINK FROM SOMEONE YOU DO NOT KNOW WELL